Sunday, December 28, 2008

The Art of Blogging Using Google Image Search

Things come to mind that make me want to blog. Curiosities - things that hit close to home - musings....


I'll ponder over my keyboard about the topic(s) I want to cover. If I get stuck - I do a google image search.

This is like the rabbit hole for me.

Depending on your security settings - simple words can bring up the most interesting pics.

This was found during a lesbian wonder woman search:

Mother Lode of Lesbian Culture at the Special Collections and University Archives at the University of Oregon in Eugene. No. 9.24.2008. 163.
Wednesday, September 24th, 2008
A Lesbian Archivist Discovers A Hidden Literary Treasure in Southern Oregon. She found a “mother lode of lesbian culture, tucked quietly away in the stacks of unprocessed collections and buried deep in the hills of Southern Oregon.”

Friday, December 26, 2008

Queer Womyns Speed Dating Jan. 21
QUEER WOMYNS SPEED DATING IS BACK AT THE BROADWAY!!! Doors open at 6 p.m. - Mixer at 6:30 - Dating at 7 p.m.
This round we're limiting the group to 24 daters.
Dates will be 3 minutes long.
Complimentary snacks will be provided.
Wine & beer available for purchase.
*Tipping your servers really impresses the ladies*
There will be a musical intermission in lieu of smaller, several breaks.
I am thrilled that singer/songwriter pianist Mayr Makenna has accepted our invitation to perform for us!
CDs available online or at QSD!
Pre-registration required. Cost: $25
$2 off when you bring at least two cans of food for Food For Lane County.
Please mail your check/money order/cash to:
EUGENE, OR 97401

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

"healthy multiplicity"

Some people who experience themselves as being two completely different people in one body—not just in the sense that they sometimes feel masculine and sometimes feel feminine—also use the term "bigender" to describe themselves in the event that the two people are of different genders, one male-identified and one female-identified. In this situation, at times when the person who is of the opposite gender to the body sex is dominant, they may experience similar feelings to a transsexual.
This phenomenon is sometimes seen as a kind of healthy multiplicity, that is to say, where a person has experiences similar to those described in dissociative identity disorder (also known as multiple personality disorder), but is able to come to terms with it, usually with the two people being aware of each other and cooperative, and does not wish to be seen as having an illness.


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Bigender (bi+gender) is a tendency to move between masculine and feminine gender-typed behaviour depending on context, expressing a distinctly "en femme" persona and a distinctly "en homme" persona, feminine and masculine respectively. It is a subset of transgender. It is recognized by the APA as a subset of the transgendered group.[1] A 1999 survey conducted by the San Francisco Department of Public Health observed that, among the transgendered community, less than 3% of genetic males and less than 8% of genetic females identified as bigender.

While an androgynous person retains the same gender-typed behaviour across situations, the bigendered person consciously or unconsciously changes their gender-role behaviour from primarily masculine to primarily feminine, or vice versa.

Bigender and sexual orientation
It might seem that a bigender identity must go with a bisexual identity but gender identity and sexual orientation are independent. It is possible to be bigender and not bisexual, or bisexual but not bigender.

For some bigenders, labels like gay, lesbian or bisexual can seem less relevant or satisfactory due to their focus on physiological sex. Some might prefer terms that refer to gender (see Gynephilia and androphilia) while others might prefer to not specify a sexual orientation at all.

Since bigender is a gender-related term, not an erotic one, a bigender can of course be asexual.

Bigender in popular culture
While performers such as David Bowie and Boy George are known for combining masculine and feminine aspects, performers who switch between a primarily masculine or feminine image, such as Eddie Izzard and Annie Lennox, better fit the bigender label. Crossdressing is not always related to gender identity, however.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

JaDeD is FaDiN FaSt

At what point have we shut ourselves off from our needs? We need to love and be loved. Why is it bad to need? Some of my closest beings are beginning to give themselves permission to NEED.

Nothing wrong w/ that!

I had my girlfriend apologize pre-emptively if she came across needy tonite. (I will address that she is now being addressed as my girlfriend - at a later.....address - sorry I had to run w/ that)

When did begin to feed that negative bullshit to ourselves? What happened that made us so Jaded.

Was it age 24?

Was it our first big breakup?

Was it because we became lazy?

It is up to us to kick the habit.

This close being of mine - she's not jaded - she's beautiful and open and willing - she's just using the word JADED to keep her defenses up.

How do you know how you feel if you stay numb?

Wake up gurl - go get HIM!!!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

IvE gOt FaMiLy

OnCe UpOn A tImE

Very long ago......

I had a funny notion many many years ago to jump on a Greyhound - ride it halfway out to the Pacific - land a job as a roadside waitress - score the studio for rent above the diner - and just live out my days.

Very strange. This has absolutely no appeal to me. None whatsoever. What was I thinking?


Thats my answer when asked why I moved to Eugene almost five (HOLY CRAP!) years ago. I moved here specifically for the lesbians. I assumed that community was community.....

Have you read craigslist w4w recently? I can't stand it. I have people tell me how awful it is. Is this the true representation of our community? I don't think so. Nah, I can't think so. If that was the case I would leave.

When I go to gatherings - both social and political - I see gaggles of us. They cannot all be tossing all that negative bullshit. The numbers dont compute.

I just cannot believe this is us as a whole. I refuse to.......

Tuesday, December 16, 2008


Check it out right? Current mood: breezy
Turned 34 yesterday and I had the best birthday ever.

My squeeze picked me up from work and took me back to my place - all classy and junk. Once inside she gave me a bar of dark choc (yum) some bubbly and beautiful cala lillies. It was very thoughtful - very sweet.....

3 of the 4 housemates were preparing a special dinner that was made with home made love. I was asked to say grace even before I had the chance to offer!

Blew out the funky candles on the funky cake and couldnt of been any happier......

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

DaaaayGo - Day aye aye go.....

Politically incorrect police memo provides insight into Chicago's gangster era

December 2, 2008
By KIM JANSSEN, Staff Writer

Two things threatened to "ruin" the Chicago Police Department in 1923, according to a freshly unearthed, 85-year-old memo sent by the city's police commissioner to the mayor: three-wheeled motorcycles and "dagos."

The racist memo, sent by then-commissioner Michael Hughes to Mayor William Everett Dever on May 26, 1923, provides a fascinating insight into the discrimination faced by Italian-Americans in Chicago during the first half of the 20th Century.

In it, Hughes writes that he is responding to the mayor's suggestion that the city purchase three-wheeled motorcycles and hire more Italians and Italian-Americans.
"I have discussed your suggestion at length with several precinct captains," Hughes writes.

"The general consensus of opinion from all I talked with is without exception opposed to the idea. "The department has been very fortunate in being able to recruit in the main Irishmen from overseas and narrow backs, and should stick with success.

"Nothing I can presently think of would do more to ruin the Chicago Police Department than to implement the use of three-wheel motorcycles and to start hiring Dagos in large numbers."
What appears to be a photocopied version of the memo emerged on an anonymous Chicago detective's Web site last week.

Loyola University professor Art Lurigio, an expert on the criminal justice system and Chicago crime history, said that the memo "smacks of authenticity."

At the time the letter was written, the city's Italian-American population was growing, Lurigio said, adding that Italian-Americans were "frozen out" of political and patronage jobs until the 1950s.

"There were few legitimate employment opportunities for Italian-Americans, so most of them were self-employed," he said.

Many were involved in bootlegging, which may partly explain police antipathy to Italians at the time, Lurigio added.

Perhaps more importantly, Prohibition provided officers with opportunities for graft that they may not have wanted to give up, Lurigio added.

In November 1924, Hughes dined at a banquet in honor of notorious Irish-American gangster Dean O'Banion, although he later told Dever he had been "tricked" into attending.
"It's likely he was corrupt," Lurigio said.

Chicago History Museum curator John Russick said there was "no doubt that bias toward immigrant communities has played a role in history of Chicago," and that "in some instances that prejudice has been expressed by people in public office in the form of offensive language."

Chicago police spokeswoman Monique Bond conceded the memo was "probably" authentic but declined to comment further.

But Anthony Langone, president of the Italian American Police Association of Illinois said the memo was "disgusting."

"It wouldn't happen today - we wouldn't allow it," Langone said, "Italian-Americans have served honorably with the police in some of the toughest neighborhoods in the city, but if you are Italian and you come from Chicago, people just think, 'mafia.'"

Retired and heavily decorated Chicago cop Bill Jaconetti said as recently as seven years ago, the IAPA had complained about the term "dago shirt" being used by Chicago officers to describe sleeveless T-shirts in suspect descriptions.

Ethnic slurs like "bomb-thrower" or "Guinea" were also common in the past, Jaconetti said.
Former IAPA president Ralph DeBartolo, now a chief with the Cook County sheriff's police, went further.

"I'd like to know where the grave of the guy who wrote that memo is, so I can go piss on it," he said.

DaGo ShIrT? Better yet...Boi Beet ah?

Dictionary definition of “dago T”

dago T
n. a ribbed, white cotton tank-style undershirt; a wife-beater; a boy-beater.

Editorial Note: A synonym is guinea T, which, like dago T, is often perceived as derogatory or offensive.

I have NEVER heard that before - but it cracked me right the fuck up!
I've never been called a DAGO. Guinea Wop Mic - hell yes. But Dago?


From Urban Dictionary
An offensive slur toward Italian's who migrated to the United States.
Many worked and were paid as the "Day Goes" like modern day "day laborers".
Many Italian Americans will not be offended if you know where and how this is derived.
example: "Them dagos over there get paid at the end of the day or we will give them a half days pay if we finish early because they get paid as the day goes "

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Who You Calling a COUGAR turkey?

COUGAR: A 35+ year old female who is on the "hunt" for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. The cougar can frequently be seen in a padded bra, cleavage exposed, propped up against a swanky bar in San Francisco (or other cities)waiting, watching, calculating; gearing up to sink her claws into an innocent young and strapping buck who happens to cross her path.
A cougar cannot be defined in a simple definition. One cannot consciously seek out a cougar. One can only prepare himself/herself for confirming the positive identity of a cougar by familiarizing himself/herself with the common signs/traits of the cougar. Once one instinctively feels the potential presence of a cougar on the prowl, he/she can fall back on what he/she knows about cougars in general to positively confirm and report a cougar sighting.
Here are the most common signs/traits that your instincts may have accurately identified a cougar nearby:
1. A single woman over 30 appears to be at least 51 months older than she is biologically.
2. A single woman over 30 is talking to your 25 year-old ass about tunes on "Pyromania" and you're able to keep the conversation rolling with your knowledge of "The Vault" and interest in her white high-tops.
3. A single woman over 30 is overheard talking to a group of college men about how she used to date a college guy when she was in 7th grade because the color of his Camaro was the same as her back pocket comb.
From the urban dictionary:
An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf.
Cougars are gaining in popularity -- particularly the true hotties -- as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.
That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn't know existed, I'm goin back for more.

Kinduf a No Brainer Dontcha Think?

An excerpt on lesbian cougars from this story:

Lesbian cougars are more visible these days, largely because lesbians are more visible, but age-disparate relationships among women have “been going on forever,” says Savage Love sex columnist Dan Savage.
“That is what Sappho was: an older lesbian attracted to a younger lesbian.”

The lesbian cougar’s motivation is as age-old as the island of Lesbos itself: Being around younger women simply makes an older woman feel young.

And, as Grace Moon, a 40-year-old adjunct professor in New York City and the managing editor of, says, “Being able to relate to someone in their 20s—and keeping a flexible attitude—is a healthy thing to do.”

Adds comic Poppy Champlin, who gives her age as “40s,” when you date a younger woman, “you pick up a sense of their youthfulness. And hopefully they’ll want to have more sex—it’ll keep my sexual libido pumping.”

Plus, the younger your partner, the less likely you’ll have to deal with the romantic baggage and bitterness of women who’ve been around the block, says Kennedy Varellas, a Glendora, Calif.–based customer service rep for a prominent straight dating website.

Although Varellas is only 31, she considers herself a cougar because she routinely dates women eight to 10 years younger. “They have fewer stories to tell about being screwed over by somebody,” she says.
Adds comic Poppy Champlin, who gives her age as “40s,” when you date a younger woman, “you pick up a sense of their youthfulness. And hopefully they’ll want to have more sex—it’ll keep my sexual libido pumping.”
Not every lesbian cougar identifies with the predatory image. Mariah Hanson says that the first time her production managers called her “the Coug,” she laughed.
But “I don’t relate to that,” she adds. “I’m in a relationship with someone who has so established herself,” she says of her girlfriend, Kathy Valenti, 34. “She’s so amazing. She’s just very mature and together.”
As Hanson sees it, “someone who’s 25 and taking up with a 45-year-old because she’s got a career path in mind—that’s not a cougar relationship, that’s a relationship of opportunity.”
Kiki Fries, a 30-year-old psychology researcher based in Miami, is even more blunt: “I don’t mind the term cougar, but I hate the term sugar mama.”
Although the term cougar implies a predatory relationship, Fries says it’s often the other way around. “The irony is it’s usually the younger woman hitting on the older woman, but cougar references the older woman.”

Cougar Speed Dating?

Oh Hellz Yeah!

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Upcoming Events for Mark Zolun

From Becky Flynn.....

Mark Zolun, one of the co-owners of Iraila Mediterranean Rustica restaurant, was diagnosed with bladder cancer in September. He has no health insurance (which is a downside of being a small business owner). Mark and his partner Kenne have given generously to Eugene and to Basic Rights Oregon. They have hosted a fundraiser for BRO and provided yummy delicacies for our events; they help sponsor Free Shakespeare in the Park and donate their time and food to many, many important local causes. I hope you will consider helping give back to Mark and Kenne in their time of need.

There are already 3 events organized as benefits for Mark - as well as a benevolent fund set-up at Washington Mutual (any branch will do) under Mark Zolun. Account no. 3411304029 You are able to save your transaction slip as a tax deductible donation!

THE EVENTS INCLUDE: Holiday Buffet and Wine DinnerTo Benefit Mark ZolunKoho Bistro and AzulSunday, December 7, 2008 6:00 PM

The menu will include Cattail Creek Lamb Short Ribs, Winter squash and other roasted vegetables from OGC,shrimp yakisoba, and spice cake with maple whip cream….to name just a few of the goodies. All wine isincluded with the meal (and you can also bring bottles to share if you want!) and you decide what to pay—all the proceeds going to Mark’s fund—suggested donation is $50.00 per person.

Please make your reservation at 681-9335. Feel free to bring your own win! Dinner price is your donation. All proceeds from dinner go to Mark!

JAN 9 COSMIC PIZZA 7 – 11 $10.00 at doorBenefit for Mark Zolun of IrailaWhen life gives you cancer, Make a Variety Show Flea Market!

The Entertainment will be:The Swinging Marmalukeys, Cowboy Gypsy Party Music, Americanistan, Mideastern inspired musicLuminessah, Tribal Belly dancing, Rhys Thomas of Jugglemania, Dirty Wink (featuring a former Iraila chef Andrew) And finally..THE QUICK AND EASY BOYS from Portland!

We will have a flea market/art sale held on site--selling donated treasures of all sorts. If you have anything you'd like to donate or flea market/ art sale – or a gift certificate etc. contact us at (info@iraila. com) We are looking for volunteers for this event as well! info@iraila. com

FEB 14
Special dinner at The Secret Garden House on February 14th with Mark and the staff of Iraila cooking!, menu soon! Entertainment to include harp music and selected romantic scenes, including some from Free Shakespeare in the Park. Thanks, all!

Friday, December 5, 2008




I dont expect everyone to like me - I've been told I'm eccentric. An acquired taste if you will? Kinduf peppery perhaps *wink*
But PLEASE don't let my happy go lucky disposition stop you from pulling the stick outta yo ass and joining in on the FUN. We recruit ya know.....ha!
Life is WAY too short. Nuff said.
I don't know about ya'll - but I'm REALLY looking forward to The Broadway tomorrow, Holiday Market at noon Saturday for Soromundi - then watch the poker chips fly over at the Eugene Coffee Co. round 7 - then top it off with Club Pynk...awesome!

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Queer Womyns Speed Dating Jan. 21

QUEER WOMYNS SPEED DATING IS BACK AT THE BROADWAY!!! Doors open at 6 p.m. - Mixer at 6:30 - Dating at 7 p.m.
This round we're limiting the group to 24 daters.

Dates will be 3 minutes long.

Complimentary snacks will be provided.

Wine & beer available for purchase.
*Tipping your servers really impresses the ladies*
There will be a musical intermission in lieu of smaller, several breaks.
I am thrilled that singer/songwriter pianist Mayr Makenna has accepted our invitation to perform for us!
CDs available online or at QSD!

Pre-registration required. Cost: $25
$2 off when you bring at least two cans of food for Food For Lane County.
Please mail your check/money order/cash to:
EUGENE, OR 97401

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Took a quick holy shit I think I've lost the tickets to the Austrailian Pink Floyd show Darla's taking me to on Friday Nite! break to check my email:

Thanks Julia.....
From Wild Women Coffee Club:

Coffee at Holiday Market 10:30 am

Soromundi at Holiday Market 12:30 pm

Beverly Soasey Open House & Studio Sale 11 am to 8 pm

MundiPoker night at Eugene Coffee Co - 7 pm

*****Tuba Carol Concert*****
1 pm (between 5th & 6th on Main in Springfield)

Springfield Christmas Parade 2 pm

Club Pynk 10 pm

Beverly Soasey Open House & Studio Sale 1 pm to 6 pm

Open House and Studio Sale, 18th & Van Buren 1 pm Sunday

The event is the Beverly Soasey Open House and Studio Sale, at which Susan Detroy is one of the guest artists.

This is being held at 1101 West 18th Ave; the green house at the corner of 18th and Van Buren. The hours are: Saturday, Dec 6, 11am to 8pm and Sunday, Dec 7, 1pm to 6pm.

Let's go give the artists our support and show Susan some love!!

We're going to have a good turnout - I'll be there Sunday @ 1 p.m.............

Tuesday, December 2, 2008


A Sagittarius woman lacks tact and her flat, on-the-face statements may make you feeling like running away from her. Then, suddenly, she will say something so charming that you will feel as if you are on the seventh heaven. There, you go again! You will be trapped in her charm once more. Once you have been enamored by a Sagittarius girl, you will be staying with her for a long time. She is pleasant, friendly, outspoken and very talkative. Her forthrightness comes form the fact that she has no illusions about the world.She sees it exactly as it is and says what she sees. At times, you may wish that she were not so honest. But then, she would be like any other girl, wouldn't she? In all probability, you will not like it.

Sagittarian female is very optimistic, but she is not irrational. She will judge the entire situation as per the facts, analyze its probable outcome and still believe that things will get better. Usually, she is very calm and composed. However, when you become rude to her or offend her, she may become like the fire-spitting dragon. Sagittarius women are quite independent and love their freedom. They are attached to their family, but not too much. If you want to get something done from a Sagittarian female, just ask her; don't order. She will never ever do it.

With a Sagittarius girl, you will never have to guess. She says what she thinks and how she acts shows what she feels. This bluntness may cost her heavily at times, even to the point of ending the relationship. Still, she would act as if she's not hurt at all and it is just one of the many harmless flirtations she's had. People will even believe all this, while inside she will be weeping and nursing her wounds. All this time, she will be analyzing what went wrong and when.

The society and its norms do not matter to her. She can never be the hypocrite that some people are and tend to wiggle a few tongues. Her honesty and brusqueness further add to the negative opinions. Don't be fooled by them. Look deep inside a Sagittarius female and you will find a woman who is so enthusiastic about life and who trusts easily. Infact, this extreme belief makes her heart vulnerable and defenseless. It gets broken too often, but then, she knows how to move on with life. You will be tempted to care for her. It's natural.

A Sagittarian girl may pass the most sarcastic comments when she is angry, but she will forget the resentment soon enough. Then, she won't understand why are you so upset. Don't try to change her and don't curb her individuality. She will brighten your life with her optimism, boost you with loyalty, trust you blindly and shower her affection on you. She will encourage you to see dreams and help you in making them come true!


Thy fatal shafts unerring move,I bow before thine altar, Love.I feel thy soft resistless flameGlide swift through all my vital frame.
For while I gaze my bosom glows,My blood in tides impetuous flows,Hope, fear, and joy alternate roll,And floods of transports whelm my soul.
My faltering tongue attempts in vainIn soothing murmurs to complain;Thy tongue some secret magic ties,Thy murmurs sink in broken sighs.
Condemned to nurse eternal care,And ever drop the silent tear,Unheard I mourn, unknown I sigh,Unfriended live, unpitied die.